Bay Area Friends is not a dating service and provides no personal ads. Occasionally someone will organize a singles-specific event, but otherwise, our social events are open to anyone who has genital herpes regardless of their relationship status. That said, most BAF members are single and many members do meet other people to date at BAF Events. Several people have even met their future spouse or partner after meeting at a BAF event!
Although the BAF Yahoo Group and BAF Meetup Group are not appropriate for posting personal ads, there are many online dating services for people with herpes, and some are listed below. Many of our members belong to both BAF and one of the below dating services. Below is a comparison of several of the herpes/STD dating services on the web. These are listed in NO particular order. Bay Area Friends does NOT endorse or promote any particular site or service – we just try to make good information available to you so you can choose the path that is best for you.
Herpes Online Dating Services
Reprinted with permission from DatingWithHerpes.org
|Herpes/STD Dating Services||Fees**||Comments|
|PositiveSingles.com*||1 month for $29.95
3 months for $59.95
6 months for $95.95
PositiveSingles.com (PS) is probably the largest online dating service for people with Herpes and other STDs. It is NOT exclusively for people with herpes. People with HPV, HSV1, HSV2, HIV, Hepatitis, and other STD’s are served in the same searchable profile database, so you can select just to see profiles with HSV1 and/or HSV2. PositiveSinglesis one of the most expensive “H” dating services, but a lot of people sign up because there are many more profiles for people with herpes than most other sites. You can sign up for free and later decide if you want to pay to upgrade in order to email or reply to other members.Please Note: A Class Action Suit was filed against PositiveSingles and their parent company, Successful Match, in January 2012. For details go to: http://tcattorney.typepad.com/techlaw/2012/01/successfulmatchcom-class-action-filed-alleging-unfair-competition-and-californias-consumers-legal-re.html
|Hmates.com||Free Trial period
1 month for $6
3 months for $15
6 months for $24
1 year for $36
2 years for $48
|For people with Herpes (HSV1, HSV2) and/or HPV only. Members must post their own profile in order to view other members’ profiles and send emails. Very basic dating site, but one of the least expensive services for what it offers. Donations and volunteer moderators welcome.|
|Hwerks.com|| Free standard membership.
1 Month $6
3 Months $18
6 Months $30
12 Months $60
|Growing community exclusively for people with Herpes (HSV1, HSV2) and HPV. In addition to user profiles and dating, it has community features, groups, blogs, forums, photos, local and national social group and event listings, etc.. They also host http://www.nationalhclub.com/ which lists herpes social events all over the US. They are supportive of local H social groups and social events|
|H-ype.com – UK based H community||Free standard membership
30 days – £3.95
90 days – £8.95
180 days – £15.95
365.days – £28.95
|H-YPE is an Herpes and HPV dating and community website that currently has members mainly but not exclusively from the UK (United Kingdom aka England). H-YPE is an acronym for Herpes-Your Positive Experience. It offers herpsters the opportunity to communicate with others via email, winks, IM (instant messenger), chat rooms and forums. Local events are also planned.|
|STAY AWAY from these Positive Singles Private Label Affiliate Sites which often use Deception and Spam to get new members. See list on the right. For info, see Herpes Scams||STAY AWAY FROM: HerpesAndDating.net, HerpesAndYouDating.com, HerpesDate.org, HerpesMeet.com, HerpesMingles.com, HerpesPal.com, HerpesPeople.com, Hmeet.com, HSinglesMatch.com, Singleherpes.com, STDfish.com, Stdloving.com, STDmatching.com, STDDateline.com. These sites are known to have used deceptive marketing practices and/or spam. For info, see Herpes Scams & Spam|
|**Fees are as of “last time we checked” and may not reflect most current prices.|
Please make sure to check out the ownership, privacy practices, and terms of service for any online dating site before you give them your private information and money.
Non-Herpes Online Dating Services
Many people with herpes have also had success dating on larger, non-H dating services. When posting personal ads on Non-H dating sites, some people choose to disclose their herpes status up front, while others prefer to wait until a relationship looks like it might become intimate before disclosing their herpes status. Having “the talk” is always easier if you have already established a friendship with a potential partner and feel that you can trust them with sensitive personal information. Click here for tips on telling someone that you have herpes.
When using non-Herpes dating services, some people place the numbers “437737” in their ads or in their searches to find others with Herpes. “437737” are the numbers on your telephone keypad that correspond with the letters in “HERPES”. It’s sort of a secret code that some people use. Of course, other singles just come out and say “Herpes” or “HSV+”, “HSV-1″ or “HSV-2″ in their ads. Still others choose not to disclose their herpes status to someone else until they think that the relationship might become intimate. It’s really up to you to decide what feels right for you.
|Non-Herpes Dating Services||Fees*||Comments|
|Match.com||1 month $34.99/mo
3 months $19.99/mo
6 months $16.99/mo
|Large, popular online dating service. Dr. Phil is their relationship coach.|
|PlentyOfFish.com||Free Basic Membership.Paid (upgraded) membership plans for $6.78-$11.80/month depending on length of contract.||Large, popular online dating service, which was once totally free. They are now offering “upgraded” paid membership plans with expanded features. The company is based in Canada.|
|Eharmony.com*||1 month $59.95/mo
3 months $36.95/mo
6 months $28/95/mo
1 year $20.95/mo
|Has a “Compatibility Matching System” and seems to be more for people looking for long-term relationships and marriage rather than casual dating.
|Craigslist||FREE||Free to post personal ads via classifieds. However, once you email someone they will have your email address. For privacy/security, create an email address that does not include your real name or company.|
|Lavalife.com||1 month $29.99/mo
3 months $56.99
|Free to post profile, search and see pictures, free to send smiles and reply to Messages. Must join to send someone a message.|
|Chemistry.com||7-day Free Trial
1 month $49.95/mo
3 months $33.32/mo
6 months $26.65/mo
|New dating service similar to eHarmony, from the same people as Match.com. Open to a wider variety of lifestyles and relationship types.|
|*Fees are as of “last time we checked” and may not reflect most current prices.|